Science, agreed, had advanced its’ way from the dark deep forest of Medieval times. Today, we can measure almost anything but….not every thing. There are still a lot of aspects of human life that can not be defined and explained with precision. Scent, music, poetry are just some of the things that vary for each individual, therefore, the way two individuals will interpret same thing can be completely different.
Such are things for which there is no gauge. You might be skiing through the soft snowy peaks of Swiss Alps or sunbathing on a sandy beach at Bali, how do you measure the beauty and the experience? I might go to the same place, stay at the same Hotel and carry out the same activities as you, still my feelings will not be the same as yours…. how I will rate different components of my trips will probably differ from your feedback.
We all are unique… we bring with us not just unique fingerprints but unique attributes…. The DNA isn’t the only base for our distinguishing characteristics; rather it is the whole Universe inside us which is distinctive. Depending on our childhoods, parenting, educational backgrounds, social lives and demographic factors we build in us strong and complex identities.
So what is enough? Is my enough, enough for you? Is your enough, enough for me? Yes it sound silly, but it is a question that needs answers. Take this as an example: I am happily married to the love of my life, but that is only because I CHOOSE to be happy despite all the shortcomings that practically come along with marriage. We are currently in a long distance relationship for few months and though it has made us appreciate our companionship more, I at times feel his enough is not good enough for me. I am a compromising soul, I have the ability to settle for less than I deserve and so I have but what if I am nearing that point where it will soon be enough for me. Where I will have had enough of seeing the beauty in my relationship and I will no longer be able to ignore my falling expectations… He is a great guy! He looks out for me and is genuinely caring. He is a handsome, successful professional and people enjoy his company. He is a great father to our son and a supportive husband to me.
But why is all this perfection not enough for me? I go deeper than these checklist attributes, I want more time and attention than he has on his hands for me… I want that genuine expression of love that twinkles in a lover’s eye… I have it all for him and wish he had the same in return. But guess he never will because I have given him eight years and though he has changed a lot for the better since I first met him… it is still not enough to make me feel loved the way I deserve.
Humans should have been designed to feel same things on same level, that way there would be no expectations, no guilt, no pain and no fear. But we are humans not angels… our individualistic natures are strong for a reason. That is why, no matter how well coordinated…. your enough will never be my enough.